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Showing posts with label Older children. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Older children. Show all posts

Sunday, 7 June 2015

Ten Signs the Kids are Back From Uni...

You've enjoyed peace and quiet for several months and have completely forgotten how to live together as a family with adult children who are away at university for most of the year. But when they arrive home again for the summer it feels as though the house has been invaded. I am reminded that while I really enjoy my daughters' company - they live on their own agenda.

Can anyone else identify with any of the following...

When the kids are home from uni...

1. You find yourself humming along to the latest chart music.

2. When the front door opens at 3 am you think you're being burgled - only to remember that your offspring went clubbing just as you were heading to bed.

3. Hidden stashes of chocolate have been found, devoured and the empty wrappers left for you to find. There are also depleted cartons of Ben & Jerry's in the freezer waiting to be discovered. Grrrrr.

4. You reminisce over episodes of Charmed and How I Met Your Mother. As you've seen them so many times before, you can recall entire chunks of dialogue.

5. No matter how many times you shop for food the fridge is always empty. Oh, and they've also polished off the entire contents of the wine rack (I guess this could also apply to the beer).

6. Whenever you've left something important lying around - chances are it won't be where you left it. Whenever they've left belongings scattered all over the house - chances are they'll stay exactly where they left them.

7. You think that you're having an intelligent conversation with your offspring - only to discover they were listening to their iPods and haven't heard a single word.

8. For some strange reason the petrol gauge on the car is always flashing.

9. They're nocturnal. Once upon a time you'd have given anything for your offspring to sleep beyond 7 am - but now they're coming to life as you're heading off to bed. Consequently they often don't appear before lunchtime and keep you awake when you need to sleep.

10. There's a permanent scummy ring in the bath in an assortment of gorgeous rainbow colours. Neither daughter has a bath in their uni digs and when they're home - they're straight off to a well-known store to buy a stash of bath bombs. These fragrance the entire house and require some serious scrubbing off the bath.

Does any of this sound familiar?

In the meantime I'm trying to hold onto my sanity and to keep reminding myself that the house is going to be empty again very soon. I plan on extracting as many hugs as possible before that happens. Olivia returns to university on Tuesday to collect results and assignments for the summer, while Sophia leaves for Oregon on Friday. She has to check-in at 04: 50 am. You can guess who'll be taking her.

Until next time...

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Friday, 24 April 2015

After they've gone...

Leaving, home, empty nestAfter the girls left home and went to university I imagined that life would reinvent itself and I'd soon find a new niche after nineteen years of mayhem. I soon discovered that you'll always be mum and that this new phase of parenting involves sorting out issues from a distance. Just this week Olivia has asked me to proof-read several essays, while Sophia requested that I stay in for the entire day and wait for an urgent delivery - Grrr! It's as though they have staff - only we live so far away from one another.

As to when my daughters will make an appearance at home for the summer - I have no idea. All I know is that we're heading down south to move Olivia into new accommodation at the beginning of July. Who knows if and when we'll be called upon in the meantime?

Here's what happens when they've left...

1. You sell their extensive collection of Harry Potter Lego on eBay and immediately feel terrible for packing up their childhood and letting it go.

2. They arrive home again for the holidays with mounds of washing and the chaos starts all over again. It's a shock to the system as you appear to have forgotten how to share a home with your offspring.

3. You send occasional goodie bags and treats because life at uni (although brilliant) isn't as luxurious as it is at home.

4. They are in your thoughts every day even if you don't hear from them. They lead busy lives and it's good that they're learning to fend for themselves. You still miss them (a lot).

5.  Now that they're older they behave like grown-ups (most of the time). For some reason you find this mildly amusing. This doesn't amuse them in the slightest however, and it's best to keep this thought to yourself.

6. They arrive home and leave again without packing something that's essential. Think memory sticks, passports, house keys, underwear, coursework and books!

7. You're terrified by the prospect of your offspring returning home for good at the end of their course. I'm guessing this is normal? Perhaps someone could enlighten me?

8. The cat is perpetually confused. She just gets used to having her 'sisters' home and making the most of their company, only for them to leave again. You cannot explain these things to a cat.

9. You spend a lot of time thinking, 'What next?' and 'What was that all about then?' as you try to make sense of the mayhem that was family life.

10. By the time they head back to uni, you've sussed what it means to be mum all over again, but feel as though you could do with a holiday as you're completely exhausted.

Whatever you have planned for the summer here's hoping you're a lot more organised than me. Here's to making the most of everything whatever happens x

Until next time...

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