A lifestyle blog from a forty-something mum

Showing posts with label Advice. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Advice. Show all posts

Monday, 9 March 2015

A Letter to my Sixteen-Year-Old Self

If you could write a letter to yourself at sixteen, what would it say? What valuable insight would you give to help you through the maelstrom that was your teenage years? Featuring letters from well-loved personalities, Dear Me: More Letters to My Sixteen-Year-Old Self is an anthology written by well-loved personalities to their teen selves. Honest, funny and insightful, it includes letters from J. K Rowling, Jodi Picoult and Hugh Jackman to name a few.
Here's mine:

Dear Izzie,

Wow, you're sixteen and have your whole life ahead of you. It's going to get easier I promise. 

First of all, don't grow up too fast. Experience more of what life has to offer and have fun along the way. Don't be afraid to make mistakes, it's how you'll learn what does and doesn't work for you and there's nothing wrong with reinventing your plans. Being a grown-up is so overrated at times and that's why it's important to make the most of your teen years. And stop hiding your petite figure under fisherman's rib jumpers borrowed from your dad's wardrobe - one day you will wish that you hadn't.

It's your dad's ambition for you to work in the medical profession. However, this is not your dream and it won't make you happy. You've always wanted to write for a living, so tell everyone to butt out and go for it.

The childhood you always wanted will be yours once you have children of your own. They will experience all the things you always wanted to do because you'll work hard and make it happen. You will love your children more than you have ever loved anyone else in your life. I know you don't think this is possible - believe me, it is.

In the meantime, care less about what others think and more about your own thoughts and beliefs. As you grow older what other people think won't bother you in the slightest and you won't be afraid to tell them so.

A face full of spots at 16, means that once you hit forty, your skin will be wrinkle-free. And one day you'll quit arguing with your sister and realise that your mum was right; your sister really is the best friend you could wish for.

In a couple of years you're going to be offered a job in New York. Who knows what will happen if you take a chance and say, "Yes?" If you turn it down, you'll never know. Your parents are going to be unimpressed, but will eventually forgive you, because that's what parents do.

At forty you're still going to love books and music, I guess some things never change.

Be happy,

Izzie x

Until next time...

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Friday, 11 July 2014

The Blog Spot

Jenny Ripatti-Taylor, Let's Talk Mommy
This week features the lovely Jenny Ripatti-Taylor from Let's Talk Mommy. Jenny is an expat blogger, author and mum to Buba and Missy Moo. Here, she shares her thoughts on being a mum, hidden talents and life as an expat.

What’s the inspiration behind Let’s Talk Mommy?
I wanted a name that sounded more like a talk show and maybe someday it will turn into one. I thought about having Let’s Talk Jenny, but I didn’t want my real name in it. Mommy is my other name so I thought it went hand in hand to be a parent and lifestyle blogger. Let’s Talk Mommy  is more than just talking about being a mother, because all of us mothers are more than just that. Mommies talk about lots of various things in life; travelling, crafts, hobbies, fashion, home décor, photography etc. Whatever your passions along side your family are, we talk about it therefore Let’s Talk Mommy  was born.

What’s life like as an expat living in the UK?
I am not going to lie, the first two or three years were really hard, some of the hardest years of my life thus far. I cried a lot and I was homesick and lonely a lot. It takes time to makes friends and learn a new culture. It also takes time making a place a home. Getting married and having children has definitely helped all that, so it’s not as hard today as it was seven years ago when I first landed, but there are still days I am really sad and just want to go down the street to have a cup of coffee with my mother, or visit my siblings and nieces and nephews or have them play with my children. Those are the things I think about now more, my children missing out on relationships with my family not so much me missing out anymore. I think that will always be the case now but we try to visit and facetime as much as possible.

You can never spend too much time…
…with family. People always say to me how do I go home for two months and be with so much family without a break. I have a huge family and we all pile into one house and there is not a quiet moment the entire time, literally. With five other siblings visiting too with their partners and kids, it’s loud and cramped. But I love it. It overwhelms my husband a little and probably one reason he only comes for two weeks. Haha But I could never get sick of my family. Spending every day with them, doing everything together is all I have ever been used to so to me that feels like home. I am a people person so I have never been one to need my own space. I think that helps or the fact I am the youngest of a million children and so I was never alone.

Do you have any hidden talents?
None that I am perfect at, but I take Spanish lessons and would love to be fluent someday as I am teaching both my kids as I go along. I have reached intermediate thus far. I played the piano and clarinet growing up and took tap dance. I used to be a lifeguard for five years and taught swimming lessons so I am a great swimmer married to a husband that can’t swim for his life, no matter how hard I try to teach him.

What drives you completely insane?
How long do you have to read this? I have a lot of pet peeves, probably because I am a little OCD at times so it’s more little things that give me a twitch. Probably the biggest is watching someone try to put something together or open something, I can see how to do it but they can’t figure out the obvious but won’t let me help. I know, I am a weirdo. But normal things drive me crazy like the toddler whine my son has picked up or the kids crying at my feet when I am on the phone. I swear when the phone rings, no matter what they are doing, they end up at my feet crying for one reason or another.

What’s the best thing that money can’t buy?
Love! You can’t fake it, you can’t buy it, you can look all your life and if you aren’t open to it and don’t love yourself you might not find it. You got to love yourself first, then love everyone else as much as you love yourself.

In my next life I’m coming back as a …
Television presenter! I love talking, being around different people all the time, meeting new people, no topic is ever off limits and I am always interested to learn new things from everyone else around me. I love interviewing people too as I used to do it at my old job, why not on camera to entertain as well. I think it is something I would have been good at if I had prepared my younger self for it.

Wine: red, white, or rosé?
White, but I am not a huge drinker. I would take a diet peach Snapple over it any day but sometimes it’s very wanted on a hot summer day with soda water.

What’s the best advice you’ve ever been given?
Best parent advice: When you put your kids to bed don’t take them out of bed until morning. If they cry rub their belly, hum a sweet song to them, but never pick them up. (obviously if they are being sick, pick them up). But I followed this and my kids both have slept from 7pm-7:30 am without crying out for Mommy or Daddy from 10 weeks old to 1 yr for MM and 3 yrs for Buba. It worked for me thus far.
Best advice personally: Keep all toxic people at a distance, even if you are related and see how much happier and positive you become! Life is too short!

What makes you happy?
Many things make me so happy, at the moment being in my hometown with my own family and my kids but lately the best thing that melts my heart is watching my two kids love each other so much. They really are becoming the best of friends and do everything together. At only 21 months apart they are like two peas in a pod. I hope it lasts forever.

The best book I’ve ever read is…
Should I be cheeky and put my own book here, When Love & Culture Collide. Ooops I already did. I would have to say The Secret but only because it was inspiring and made me a more positive person. Any book that can change your life is worth mentioning. There are so many great books out there and when the kids get older I can’t wait to get back to reading.

Who would you like to be stuck in a lift with, and why?
On a serious note, it would be my best friend. Who else could keep me calm if I am stuck in an elevator? Who else could make me think of great things and have fun with in a 4x4 confined space? Who else could make it like a girlie catchy up, because we don’t have our four kids climbing all over us to talk? Who else would tell the story afterwards like it was a great adventure we went on together and will remember forever?
On a less serious note, Kelly Ripa, I would annoy the hell out of her probably with all the questions I would want to ask her. She has this picture perfect family, amazing career, is fit and healthy, and I admire her so very much.

Thanks to Jenny for being my guest this week. Here's hoping she has a fabulous summer with extended family over in the US.

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Until next time...
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Friday, 27 June 2014

Advice To All The Teens Out There

Advice to all the teens out thereRight now I'm guessing that you can't wait to be all grown up and part of the adult world. And that's OK, but there's stuff you need to know before you get there:

1. Chances are there will never be another time in your life when you'll get so many great opportunities. Try everything (as long as it's legal) and if you don't like it, move on and try something else instead.

2. Hate school? This one's tricky. It's a legal requirement and you have to go. I suggest that you look at school from a completely different perspective. I'm guessing that you have dreams for the type of career you want as an adult? Well, think of school as a springboard for launching you into that perfect job and equipping yourself with everything you need to get there. Do the best you can: no one can ask for more.

3. It's OK to make mistakes. You're learning how to be an adult and won't always get things right. What's more important is that you learn from them and think about what you could have done differently. Accept the consequences of your actions, apologise if necessary and move on.

4. Hormones: chances are there are lots of these zapping around inside of you right now. They might turn you into someone you don't recognise and you might not like the person you've become. It gets better I promise and one day you'll look back on your teen years and smile.

5. Have a problem? Don't be afraid to ask for help. This is not a sign of weakness, as it takes courage to admit there's something you can't cope with. Hopefully, you'll get all the support you need. If not, keep going until you find someone who can help you.

6. All of the adults in your life were once teens themselves. And although it's hard to believe, they are not all out to get you. Instead, they wish only for you to become the best you can be and will do everything in their power to help you. If you have parents who say things like:
  • "Have you done your homework?"
  • "We love you no matter what," and,
  • "What's wrong?" You are very lucky indeed.
7. Be yourself: why would you want to be anyone else exactly? You're unique and have valid opinions, (OK so the adults in your life might not share them, but they are yours nonetheless). Cherish your individuality.

8. Peer pressure: a true friend (or a boyfriend, or girlfriend for that matter) won't pressure you into doing anything you don't want to. If you don't want to do something, say "No," and walk away. It's not easy, but do it anyway and respect your decision.

9. Know what makes you happy: it's OK to feel overwhelmed sometimes by everything that's going on in your life. It's not easy being a teenager. Try listening to music, read a magazine, chat to a friend, or whatever. If you find that you're feeling overwhelmed most of the time, this is a problem, read number 5 again.

10. You're a long time grown-up with all the responsibilities that it brings and while parenting seems like the most awesome job on the planet, the hours are long, there's no time off for good behaviour and sometimes it's just hard to juggle all of the stuff that's required each and every day. Enjoy being a teen while you still can. There's all the time in the world to pretend you're a grown-up. Most of the time we're completely clueless too.

Until next time...

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