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Monday, 4 April 2016

The one where a daughter finally sorts out her bedroom...

Daughter, Bedroom, Sorting out, DeclutteringAs regular readers will know, I'm always decluttering our home in the hope that some day we'll move to a house overlooking the sea and take only the things that are useful and/ or beautiful with us. In the meantime, living in a house that's slowly achieving minimalist status is a bonus. And while I'm pretty good at offloading anything that is surplus to requirements or takes up too much space - my daughters are possibly the polar opposite.

I have raised the subject of sorting out the contents of bedrooms many times; only to receive one of those withering looks from my offspring that roughly translates into...

'I hear you loud and clear - but didn't like what you said - so I'm going to ignore you.'

I was therefore surprised by the unfurling chaos in Sophia's room on Saturday evening and realising that she was actually going through her belongings came as a complete shock. Her collection of illustration books, art paraphernalia, coursework plus assorted tat she's accumulated while at uni has no space to go in a few week's time when she arrives home for good. This may have inspired her call to action. She's also off to the US for the summer and possibly leaving again just as soon as summer camp is over to teach abroad after that.

Sophia worked diligently in her bedroom for several hours. Methodically sifting through the contents of wardrobes, drawers and cupboards. I was astounded by the heap of belongings amassed on the landing and sad that so many treasured possessions from childhood hadn't made the transition into her adult life.

Gone are the cute kitten playing cards bought in Greece, the once treasured hair accessories and the Rubik's cube she never quite mastered. The prom tiara, secret diary and an assortment of gifts from friends and family that she neither wanted or used. My youngest daughter has grown up and there is no room in her life for any of the above. Instead, there is more emphasis on wanderlust than a room filled with stuff. 

Yesterday we made the long journey to deliver our youngest to university for the very last time. As we hugged before making the long drive home without her, I felt a familiar pang of something that's hard to define. I get to repeat the experience with my eldest twin daughter next week and know that I'll feel out of kilter in the coming days with only the cat and Mr A for company.

This morning as I bagged donations for the charity shop, I've gone from feeling sad to ever so slightly philosophical as I think about what's next for my twin girls and wonder where life will take them.

 
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15 comments :

  1. This must be another very weird step towards them achieving total independence. Fair play to her for finally doing it, though! Somehow I can never imagine my boys sorting their stuff out.

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  2. Lovely (if not slightly sad) post Izzie. It's always a sad moment when you realise they've grown up. I know my mum said the same about me. She even held onto one of my cuddly toys when I left home, bless her. X

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  3. Well done to your daughter for sorting it all out but I imagine it was quite a strange time; I imagine I'd feel quite sad and nostalgic about some of the stuff being thrown out!

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  4. Hi Izzie, no doubt that watching your daughter sort through her belongings was a bitter/sweet after all those years of eyeball rolling. My daughters room is a tip and like you I gently reminder her to tidy it and she just rolls her eyes at me, I don't make a big deal as I like to choose my battles carefully and an untidy room isn't the end of the world. The day I walk in and find her sorting and tidying without having been told will be a very sad day indeed as it will be the sign that things are about to change.

    It must be sad that things are on the change, but that's life and your daughters have fantastic futures to look forward to and that's down to you.

    xx

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  5. Wow, what a lot of memories to go through, and I can well imagine the mix of emotions from relief and pride that the room is finally sorted to nostalgia for the days gone by!

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  6. Oh I'm dreading those years of them starting to fly the nest, however much I sometimes wish for some time to myself right now. I hope you get through the transition days ok! And great that your daughter has sorted her clutter out, I should take a leaf out of her book!!

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  7. I'm not transitioning well from having a child to having a young adult "child", he's not over sentimental with things (unlike his mum!) but I know when he finally moves out, and clears his room up, it'll be an emotional day. I hope your daughters have amazing adventures!

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  8. I'm also going through a massive de-clutter phase... but still holding onto baby clothes/items on the off chance there might be another! Great Sophia finally sorted her room, but I can see why you are left with a bitter/sweet feeling. Hard to imagine just yet but imagine I can all the same! Hugs x

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  9. Awww it must have been hard for you and her to go through things and throw out things like that, but it's got to be done. The good thing about today's technology is that you can take photos of the things that you kind of care for but don't want to hold on to for later memories. :)

    Mookieslife 

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  10. My daughter is so good with her bedroom, she likes everything in it's place and is always sorting... she's possibly a bit OCD but then i think she may take after her mother :)

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  11. It must be so hard and great at the same time. My boys are just 9 and 11 and the 9 year old is terrible with his bedroom. I am dreading him getting older and it getting worse!

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  12. I am not ready for these pair to fly the nest, luckily I have a fair few years to adjust to the idea! Hope your girls enjoy their time at University! x

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  13. I remember doing this with Abbey and it was a very bittersweet moment. Hope both your daughters have an amazing time at university. I bet you wont miss all their washing and ironing and think how tidy those rooms will be for a while :0)

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  14. What a beautiful post. You're very brave - I think I'd have been going through my daughter's piles of unwanted things, squirreling away loads of the old treasures!

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  15. Gosh that must be a weird feeling, I can see why you felt strange about it. We are just heading towards the end of first year at uni and my son doesn't really have a huge amount of stuff anyway, he is a minimalist but maybe that is a boy thing as my younger boys aren't so attached to stuff. Yet my daughter is only six and she is horrendous and won't let me get rid of anything! Good luck with the next stage.

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